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How to Become a Relationship Coach


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Published on:

Tue Mar 19 2024


Last updated:

Wed Apr 24 2024


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The Personal Development School

"How to become a relationship coach"

It’s one of the most common questions we get asked here at The Personal Development School.

And I can understand why: it’s a noble career helping people while empowering yourself and securing your financial future.

Today, we’ll discuss how you can do it (and why the Integrated Attachment Theory™ Relationship Program might be the answer for you).

What Does a Relationship Coach Do?

Relationships are fundamental to our happiness and success in all areas of our lives.

They are the lifeblood of our social activities, goals, and romances. Everyone you do — from getting married to starting a business — requires relationships to be successful.

But as much as the world tells us that simply loving or caring for someone is enough to make a relationship work, that’s just not true.

There are always issues in a relationship, from expectations and needs to communication and conflict.

That’s why people turn towards a relationship coach when there’s a dip in a relationship.

Which begs the question: what do relationship coaches do?

It’s exactly like the title sounds: coaching people and helping them with their relationships.

In more detailed terms, a relationship coach works with a single person, couple, or family members to help them navigate and improve the outcomes of their relationships, whether that’s romantic, familial, or platonic.

They provide tools and strategies to help with various issues, including communication, conflict, emotional intelligence, and expectations, to develop healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

Some of the issues that relationship coaches can help with include:

  • Marriage problems
  • Communication
  • Conflict
  • Children
  • Expectations
  • Needs
  • Sex
  • Finances

However, it’s important to remember that because every person and couple is different, so will the methods, suggestions, and tools. It also depends on the scenarios involved in the relationship, the current situation, and the individuals' goals.

This might seem overwhelming, but there's a lot of benefit to being a relationship coach...


Why Become a Relationship Coach?

Being a relationship coach is a very rewarding and fantastic role. It will provide the opportunity to inspire change in people, bring relationships closer together, stop divorces and separations, and truly help people have a loving and fulfilling relationship.

Here are some of the ways relationship coaches help people:

  • Help them build and create self-confidence, self-love, and growth.
  • Assist them with strategies to find more fulfillment and satisfaction in relationships.
  • Transform their attachment style into becoming securely attached.
  • Teach them subconscious reprogramming tools to help change their limiting beliefs.
  • Allow them to understand boundaries for improved self-esteem and healthier relationships.
  • Explain to them powerful tools to improve communication to de-escalate conflicts.
  • Help them release relationship insecurities and build healthy relationships based on trust.

On the financial level, relationship coaches can work their hours, charge the rate they see fit (based on experience), and grow their business (or work it as a side hustle).

If they're already a trained and certified individual (such as a psychologist, counselor, or therapist), adding relationship coaching to their arsenal will further enhance career growth and opportunities.

Then, there’s the personal side. While learning relationship coaching, people can empower and improve themselves while helping their relationships. Why shouldn’t someone use powerful tools and strategies to help themselves and their relationships? It’s one of the best features of being a relationship coach.

It’s also why our Integrated Attachment Theory™ (IAT) Certification Program is so popular; we provide the tools and resources to help people from all various backgrounds maximize their lives and careers.


What Do You Need to Become a Relationship Coach?

Firstly, anyone can become a relationship coach.

In terms of personal attributes, people need to showcase a range of them.

Here’s what skills a relationship coach needs:

Knowledge of Healthy Communication Skills — Coaches need to have various communication methods to help people understand their needs and wants and, most importantly, how to communicate tools, strategies, and resources to them.

Active Listening — Ironically, this is crucial for all relationships. Active listening is essential to establish a relationship with a patient and truly help them. Pay attention, listen to what and how they’re saying it, and respond in the right way.

Encourage Empowerment — Relationship coaches must believe that their clients can change. They must always try to encourage that level of empowerment to help their clients. If the coach is negative or hopeless, how can a couple or person change their patterns and habits?

Visualize and Set Goals — Not all individuals or couples know what they want; they just know they have problems. So, the role of a relationship coach is to help them visualize and set goals for themselves so they know what they’re aspiring for and how to get there.

Hold People Accountable — Sometimes, people need a bit of motivation to help them change. A relationship coach’s role is to guide them into self-discovery and keep them accountable. How can people change if someone doesn’t hold them to expectations?

Offer Empathy — Empathy is seeing things from another’s perspective, and a relationship coach understands that all people have their own unique story and that what works for one might not work for another person.

Remember, anyone can become a relationship coach. In our Integrated Attachment Theory™ Relationship Program, all levels of experience are welcome!

How to Become a Relationship Coach

So, are you ready to understand how to become a relationship coach?

Here are five simple steps to follow.

1. Define your goals and niche

It’s up to you to determine your goals as a relationship coach. Do you want to own and run your practice? Or do you want to help people in your own time? Establishing this step first is essential in approaching relationship coaching and establishing larger outcomes.

There are different niches regarding relationship coaching: individual, couples, marriage, and sexual; the list can go on and on. Choosing a niche can help determine which market target to target and how to approach the business practice.

2. Enroll in an accredited relationship coaching program

You'll find thousands of results if you search ‘relationship coach training program’ online.

Here's what to look for in a program:

  • What resources people are getting from the course
  • Who is running the program (you want a recognized and authorative name)
  • What people say about the program
  • What people experienced after taking the course
  • Ensure they offer certification with a pass completion rate (you want to have earned becoming a relationship, not just be given the certificate for just turning up)

3. Get certified as a relationship coach

While earning the certification is key, what you learn during your program is crucial.

Thoroughly learning the tools and strategies, practicing them in real life, working with classmates, and speaking to your instructor (that would be me!) is how people will develop the skills and experience to be success after earning the certification.

The more work you put into the course, the better the results will be once you complete it.

Then, get certified by taking the course!

In the IAT™ Program, you must score at least 60% on your final exam to get your IAT™ certification. You can take the multiple choice test up to three times and get your scores immediately. However, you must accept the test online within 3 months following your 12 weeks of training.

4. Offer your services

Now that you’re certified and have some coaching experience, it’s time to offer your services.

This might be the most challenging part for many students because most relationship courses don’t provide the essential knowledge of building a business.

That’s where the IAT™ Program is a little different.

You’ll learn how to:

  • Set up your business from the ground up - developing a mission statement, vision statement, and business plan
  • Operate your business with the key formula to produce results and expand fast
  • Build large funnels and create powerful systems in your business to constantly drive traffic to the business
  • Use cutting-edge tips and strategies on how to create and grow a thriving coaching practice from scratch
  • Make a healthy career transition with steps for success

Now, I could tell you these little secrets, but taking the program is the best way to do it.

5. Take what you learned and use it

With a certification in hand, a toolbox of strategies, and resources to build a business, it's time to become the relationship coach.

While the certification and program will help, it's ultimately up to you to use what you learned to change your life, career, and future.

Remember -- you can always go back and relearn, practice, and get more information from your program to really set yourself up.

The Integrated Attachment Theory™ Relationship Program

Now, you might noticed throughout our blog that I’ve mentioned the IAT™ Relationship Program. It’s our exclusive program that teaches anyone — I mean anyone — to become a relationship coach.

Whether you:

  • Intend to build a thriving coaching business
  • Are passionate about personal growth and helping others
  • Want to improve your own life and relationships

This course is specifically designed for you.

It takes 12 weeks and covers exclusive Personal Development School's tools and strategies.

This means you’ll about:

  • Attachment styles
  • Core wounds and beliefs
  • Personal and relationship needs
  • Subconscious mind and reprogramming tools
  • Healthy habits of communication and conflict management
  • The strategies to build a thriving business with continuous clients
  • And much, much more.

You can take the program Live (with our new spring season starting on May 1st) or On-Demand meaning you can do it anytime.

This program will teach you how to become a relationship coach specializing in attachment theory. It will give you the exact tools and steps you need to become an industry leader, build a thriving practice, and make a massive impact on others’ lives and relationships through the lens of attachment theory.

Even if you have no prior coaching experience, this training will give you the tools and confidence to get started in a matter of weeks.

If you’re ready to change your life, career, and financial future, learn more about our Integrated Attachment Theory™ Relationship Program, starting May 1st.

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